I think I over-reacted in that last
post. It was probably one of the Stretches. Which is to say, the Hub-man's officially on the Bounce, and life is sweet again..! But then, NOW you know how badly I react
every time he’s on that bend..!
But again, I have a history of
over-reacting! I over-reacted when my parents wanted to define my career, and ended
up in a field I’m not interested in. I over-reacted when my best friend told me
she was not going to be coming for my wedding, until I found out that she was
just pulling my leg, and ended up with calling over five other guests I did not
even care to invite.
And most importantly, I over-reacted when I realized how close the Hub-man’s best friend’s wife and the Hub-man were, and ended up hating the poor girl, even though I hardly knew her..!
And most importantly, I over-reacted when I realized how close the Hub-man’s best friend’s wife and the Hub-man were, and ended up hating the poor girl, even though I hardly knew her..!
It’s plain and simple. I was jealous.
I’m still jealous. But I think I’ve started sending out the Mean Vibes whenever
her name is mentioned. And I don’t think the Hub-man really appreciated
that. I mean how upset would I get if he started sending Mean Vibes to my best
friend?! I’d probably over-react, but that’s another story!
The main point is, she and he were quite
close. The Hub-man’s best friend is a quiet sort. He doesn’t talk much. On the
other hand, the Hub-man and the other’s wife can yap all day long. And
combining the fact that the best friend was a bit shy of his new wife, and felt
guilty about suddenly abandoning his room-mate/bestie/heart-brother (does this
word even exist?!) once she came into the picture, the three of them ended up
spending a lot of time doing things together. And I mean A LOT OF TIME!
They had lunch on weekends together.
They had dinner on weekdays together. They went shopping and for movies
together! And since the best friend didn’t talk much, it was up to these two
talkers to hold up the fort. And they got along famously!
I obviously entered this story much
later… Nearly eight months after the advent of the best friend’s wife. My
hub-man’s a sweetie. When I first moved in to Here, he complimented me on
everything. He made me feel like a Princess..!
I’d get special treatment, and sweet teasing, and compliments which made me blush. When I fell sick or cut myself chopping the onion, he’d be all over me with concern. My mistakes in keeping house were accepted lovingly, with a sprinkling of silly comments which made me laugh and blush.
And then a month later, I met the best friend and the wife for a dinner outing. Since my coming Here, the Hub-man’s hanging out with his old gang had reduced drastically. I was nervous because I knew how important they were to him. Add to that I was feeling a bit home-sick for my old friends I’d left behind in the Old City.
I’d get special treatment, and sweet teasing, and compliments which made me blush. When I fell sick or cut myself chopping the onion, he’d be all over me with concern. My mistakes in keeping house were accepted lovingly, with a sprinkling of silly comments which made me laugh and blush.
And then a month later, I met the best friend and the wife for a dinner outing. Since my coming Here, the Hub-man’s hanging out with his old gang had reduced drastically. I was nervous because I knew how important they were to him. Add to that I was feeling a bit home-sick for my old friends I’d left behind in the Old City.
And imagine my disappointment, shock and
upset at seeing MY Hub-man complimenting the best friend’s wife the same way he
did me! And she too, blushed and laughed the same way I did! During that dinner, there was a long story of how she fell sick
and how her legs hurt from exhaustion. And I saw MY Hub-man shower her with
concern. Over dessert, there was another story of her cooking adventures, and MY Hub-man teased her just as affectionately just as he did me.
All the special in my Hub-man slowly drained out of me during those grueling ninety minutes..! I was quiet through most of the evening(and for those who know me, me being quiet is a catastrophe!) and in the car, when the Hub-man asked me if everything was all right, and tried to show me concern, I shut him out.
All the special in my Hub-man slowly drained out of me during those grueling ninety minutes..! I was quiet through most of the evening(and for those who know me, me being quiet is a catastrophe!) and in the car, when the Hub-man asked me if everything was all right, and tried to show me concern, I shut him out.
Of course, it was no surprise I returned
to my room that night with a whole list of complaints to fire at my Mom and
Best friend! That other wife was a horrible person! Attention-seeking! Self-centered! A wannabe! And I hated her and missed my own friends!
I fell asleep crying, thinking that I missed my family and friends. And over the course of the next few meetings, I continued hating the other’s wife.
I fell asleep crying, thinking that I missed my family and friends. And over the course of the next few meetings, I continued hating the other’s wife.
Only recently did I realize what had
happened. And I still hate it that MY Hub-man is not unique with ME. I mean,
the best friend did not compliment me the way my Hub-man complimented his wife!
I don’t want him to, either. The only person who’s compliments I want is the
Hub-man.
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