Letting Him Be...

Praise the Lord, the Stretch is over! The time for coochie-cooing is back..!

So yesterday I was a bit off. While stepping out of the house, I have this ritual, where I peck the hub-man on the cheek, and he pecks me back. But lately I’ve been getting this feel that the peck returned is not meant.

Silly? I don’t think so. Most ladies are able to sense their’s partner’s minds. And my Hub-man’s mind told me that he was pecking for the sake of pecking. Because I would peck his mind if he did not. And bring it up again and again for a whole two weeks as I banged the pan in the sink and the remote on the table.

But I didn’t like this ‘for-the-sake-of-it’ thingie. Maybe I was wrong. Maybe it was meant from the heart, and he was just avoiding my lipstick. But I didn’t like it, and that was my judgement. Besides it wasn’t just that. He was on the Stretch then, so there were a million other tiny things too. Like squeezing my hand and let go almost immediately if I reach for him. And reacting with a weird smile if I lean against him, only to move away.

So I decided on pay-back yesterday. I was going to give him tit-for-tat. No being affectionate, no leaning against him or reaching for him. And if he wanted to hold my hand, this time I was going to be the one to give it a squeeze and let go!

But then I reach home, and realize the Stretch is over! Hallelujah!

And then I got to thinking. I have so many quirks. Horrible, horrible ones, in fact! I tend to cling, I become angry over the smallest of things, I have too many expectations, and the worst of them all, I expect him to read my mind..!

But he lives with it. Tries to look past these disturbing aspects to what I am within. Tries to love me FOR these quirks, rather than be irritated BECAUSE of them.

So if he has a quirk, a single quirk, where he needs to stretch every few weeks (crazy though it drives me!) can’t I live with it? Do I HAVE to punish him for it each time?

In the last month and a half, there’s not been a single week we’ve not had tension between us. Why? Because I’ve tried to react to his being busy. Whether it be his work, or his Stretch, or even something as mundane as watching a movie on his laptop. Instead, if I let it flow, wouldn’t life be easier?

Today I’ve planned a surprise for him. For a change, I’m going to let him just be.. It’ll give me an edge over our next fight, don’t you think?

And oh, yes! When I think of my marriage now, it brings a radiant smile to my face, making my colleagues wonder what new prank I'm up to now..!!!